Here's the thing:
I resent the implication that an attractive, intelligent, capable woman, who chooses not to accept every attractive (or otherwise) offer of marriage, and who has finally decided to not be afraid of or hide who she is, is obviously broken or damaged somehow. Or is OBVIOUSLY gay or straight or whatever. Obviously.
Now, I really don't care if you identify as gay, straight, or in-between. I just don't want anyone getting the idea that, because of the choices I've made, I'm something I'm not. I don't want anyone assuming they know everything about my life based on what they see: a single, attractive (most of the time), talented, intelligent woman who has chosen to live with her parents for the time being. That's just how my life is. It doesn't have an agenda or a message any more complicated than that, really. I mean, I guess my agenda is to be a good example and help people and make beautiful things, and my message is that even though things can get really hard and ugly, you can get through them, but those aren't really that complicated. There's nothing subliminal happening here. (Ok, maybe I'm subliminally encouraging more people to wear fancy shoes, or some attractive man to think I'm amazing enough to marry, but that's totally fine.)
I like pretty things, I enjoy my solitude, I have opinions and issues, I've chosen not to encourage men who are not right for me, I'm afraid of hurting people I love, and I've decided to not freak out over what people think about it. I'm Mormon. I'm fairly conservative. I'm not hiding anything here, except, maybe, my vast list of irrational fears, but I don't even really hide that.
So, if I decide to use my magic powers to build a beautiful ice palace and wear sparkly clothes all the time, not to mention sing like Idina Menzel, it doesn't mean anything except that I like beautiful ice palaces and sparkly clothes, and I'll get annoyed if you assume otherwise.
PS: I really, REALLY, want to see fjords in person someday. And then shake
